I received a text today from someone who I have not had any contact with for over a year and to whom I thought I had made quite clear that I wanted to end our friendship...apparently I was wrong...the text asked if I wanted to meet-up for dinner because s/he was in. I didn't even know who the text was from, as I had deleted the number from my phone. They texted back telling me they were, I said I already I had plans, s/he asked if I wanted to meet up over the weekend, I said I had plans, and s/he said "ok, maybe next time."
Most people would have just said "sorry wrong number" after I asked who it was. Most people would also have gotten the hint by now and expect things to change the future. This person is just one of those really negative, needy, exhausting, desperate, outright psycho, and so full of self-loathing that I can't stand being near them. I made a decision a few years back to not have these types of people in my life. I have enough stress in my life, I don't need someone else's too, especially someone who is so psychologically messed-up and fragile that they can't reciprocate with me in anyway. Don't get me wrong, I'm there for my friends, but, as the saying goes, friendship is a two-way street; you can't just take take take and be so needy and codependent, you have to also give. I don't know why these psychos gravitate toward me...maybe it's because I'm a good listener and am too polite...which sometimes gets confused with giving a crap.
One of my favourite quotes about this situation comes from How to Train Your Dragon:
Most people would have just said "sorry wrong number" after I asked who it was. Most people would also have gotten the hint by now and expect things to change the future. This person is just one of those really negative, needy, exhausting, desperate, outright psycho, and so full of self-loathing that I can't stand being near them. I made a decision a few years back to not have these types of people in my life. I have enough stress in my life, I don't need someone else's too, especially someone who is so psychologically messed-up and fragile that they can't reciprocate with me in anyway. Don't get me wrong, I'm there for my friends, but, as the saying goes, friendship is a two-way street; you can't just take take take and be so needy and codependent, you have to also give. I don't know why these psychos gravitate toward me...maybe it's because I'm a good listener and am too polite...which sometimes gets confused with giving a crap.
One of my favourite quotes about this situation comes from How to Train Your Dragon:
Gobber: Now, you're thinkin' about this all wrong! It's not so much what you look like, it's what's inside that he can't stand.
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